Portrait of the Body Farewelled
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In our culture
the body lies in a place
of our meetings. For some,
it may be a Marae, but for us
you lie now in our sitting room
and will do for the next three days.
People come and go. Access to the food
areas is closed off. Seating is on all levels;
mattresses either side of the coffin. I sleep
beside you and you appear to me now as you
did in the early days of our marriage. Because
you are my husband and this is how I best remember
you; before the heavy medication and steroids changed
you. “See,’ I say to our eldest grandchild who sleeps this last
night opposite me; “see how slim and handsome he is. An artist
has airbrushed him well for us.” Nothing of his eight decades
is in this portrait. Three nights I slept, as I always had, at your side.
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Many years after you’ve gone I summon the words for the portrait;
your body lying slim and handsome. All portraits of the living were
removed from the room as you lay here: and returned soon after
your tangi. In our culture, this is what we do. I can in no way take
photographs, painting a picture would be wrong. I log your portrait
in this way, the words written long after.
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Benita H. Kape 10.4.2017
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Marae Maori meeting house
Tangi funeral
Lovely and so true
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